Nothing will get better so long as you believe the other guy is wrong. He will think you are mistaken, or at least that you misunderstand the situation, or he will deny responsibility.
Nothing changes unless the change you want begins with you. You are the only person whose life is totally within your control.
A snowball rolling down a hill will gather both mass of other snow and momentum until it reaches enormous proportions and has enormous potential energy. Yet only one person is required to make the original snowball.
If everyone says that it’s someone else’s job to make the snowball, all the potential is lost. Someone must get their hands cold or everyone will take the heat of failure.
If you want the world to change, change yourself first. The world will take note of your marvellous improvement or change and want to have the same for themselves. The world loves a bandwagon, but someone has to hitch up the horses.
Be the change you want. You will be the evidence that it works.
Nothing beneficial has ever happened because of a negative attitude. From a sour look to a war, everything negative fails to make progress or improvement. Those with negative attitudes seldom want to work together with others, except for their personal gain. The old saying that “war makes enemies out of friends” holds true at a personal level as well.
When Jesus of Nazareth advised everyone to “Love your enemies,” he didn’t mean like your mother or your lover. In his time, everyone was either an enemy or a friend (ally), so he advised us to make friends. Enemies converted to friends can be the truest and most dependable friends of all.
Blaming someone else is personal and selfish. Helping someone else, such as working together to solve a mutual problem, can make friends out of enemies. Making friends is an outflow of self. Making enemies is a costly and selfish way to spend emotional energy.
Someone must always make the first move to make something right and better. You are the only person whose will and whose actions you control.
Start making that snowball and you will be surprised at how many people will join you to push it toward the hill.
When you want to roll a snowball down a hill, always push, never pull. Others like to push, but few like to pull. If you want to make the snowball bigger, just as with a problem, never pull it toward yourself.
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